You are already a parent before you become a
parent. Being a parent comes with an attitude, a
presence, an evolution and a becoming. No matter
how some may try to ignore the state of
parenthood for what it is, you can’t simply live the
same way when you were single when you become
a parent. That is if you want to be a great parent
for your kids. And since your kids will deserve the
best from you, here are some changes you have to
make if you want to become a parent.
1. You have to become more tolerant
Tolerance means knowing that when your child
wants something they deserve you have to be
flexible enough to meet with their desires.
Sometimes what your child will want may not be
something you can or you would want to give but
you simply have to tolerate their nuances and give
it to them.
2. You have to be more organized
Being single or not having a child yet may mean
you have a lot of free time to do what appeals to
you, but when a child comes to the stage, you just
have to be better organized with your time. What
best time to prepare for the job than now.
3. You have to be more productive
Fatherhood or motherhood is a full time job. Every
other thing comes in between. And when you have
so much hovering you over you, you really need to
learn how to make the most of everything you do,
from setting the right example to providing for
your kids financial needs and more.
4. You have to be supportive
Being a parent could be a challenge. Especially if it
is something you are new to. Try and learn how to
be supportive. Your significant other will need this
when you are tending for the baby. And even if it
is just you, you have to be supportive of any other
person that will be willing to provide assistance to
your raising a baby.
5. You have to be appreciative
There are challenges with being a parent. And
sometimes it is so easy to ignore the gift and start
looking at the obstacles. Now that you are not yet
a parent, try and focus on appreciating the gifts of
responsibility and engagement you have.
6. You have to be relationally connected
To be a better and a more successful parent
depends on how connected you are to your spouse
or friends. Being able to be connected with others
means you can benefit from these connections and
infuse them in the relationship with you and your
child/children.
7. You have to be able to manage your
emotions
If you are having issues with anger, anxiety or
depression it is important you start working on
these things before you have kids. Your ability to
be able to regulate your emotions determines how
less needy you are on others or how your
emotions are triggered by other people.
8. You have to be responsible
Responsibility means taking charge. When you
become a parent you will have to take charge of
your financial, spiritual, emotional, physical and
moral growth. It is important for you to be more
responsible for these things before you become a
parent.
9. You have to take care of your health
You are the vehicle to your child’s success in life.
You have to make sure your health whether
spiritual, mental, emotional or physical is in the
right shape. You do not want to constantly offer
your kids resentment, anger and criticism.
10. You have to be consistent
You have to show stability. Stability and
adaptability may correlate but what stability offers
you is a direction, purpose and an assurance. To be
a parent you have to be willing to do things
consistently and stay in line with doing these
things to make your kids happy.
